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You ever leave a date thinking, “Why didn’t I do that?” or “Why did I do that!”? I know I have, on multiple occasions. If right now you’re preparing for a date your brain is probably racing with all sorts of ideas and questions. I’ve been there, recently too. I get tempted to wish dating was easier. But the truth is I want dating to remain adventurous. I just need to plan ahead and prepare for it. Here are some first date tips and etiquette that you can always apply. Don’t be too cocky that you think you can just wing it. First impressions are important because you only get one shot.

Since I started dating I’ve gone on some wonderful first dates and some that I don’t recall because they were that horrible. The sad apart about the ones that went wrong is that I planned the date. If I was the conductor and the music didn’t flow then I can only blame myself. It might have gone different if I had Google to rely on back in the day. I didn’t’ though so I learned from my mistakes and others.

Be Confident – Remember she already said YES

First dates are tough! It can be awfully intimidating. You find yourself doing Google searches for First Date Tips. And that’s probably how you got here. Remember this, she already said YES. She didn’t accept a first date with the guy next to you or some other stranger or your alter ego. You asked her and she told you yes. That’s the hardest part but you now know she wants to get to know you.

Focus on your positive traits. Your qualities. The attributes your friends and family love and enjoy. Don’t be afraid to ask them for reminders. Bring these to the table and she’ll enjoy your company. Leave the negative thoughts at home and step out as you.

Location, Location, Location

If I ask a stranger out or a girl I don’t know too well I like to plan a date that isn’t too committal. Both on your wallet and time. You’ll want to talk, laugh, exchange ideas and beliefs. This can be done over coffee, happy hour or something similar. Sparks won’t always fly and if it doesn’t it’ll be easier for both of you to part ways. If sparks do fly though you can easily suggest something after.

If we’re already friends I prefer to plan a date that’ll be more than an hour. Have a great dinner and fun evening going for a walk, playing games or even a day adventure like kayaking or hiking. She’s your friend so you should know what she likes to do. Now just plan it, get to know her and treat it like a first date for all the other first date tips here.

When I was a noob to dating I can remember planning a few where I suggested a meeting spot and that was the extent of my plan. We’d meet and start walking straight… sometimes West.

Keep Your Expectations in Check

Don’t go in to it expecting too much. During or after the date ask yourself these questions. How was the conversation? Did it flow naturally? Was it your type of conversation? Did we laugh? Was there more than physical attraction? Do you want to see her again? There might have been some awkwardness and that’s fine. You’re both nervous so give her the benefit of the doubt.

Dress to Impress

Dressing for the occasion is dressing to impress. If you’re taking her out to dinner at a nice restaurant then wear casual dress clothes or collared shirt and fitted jeans. If you’re going kayaking don’t wear a suit, wear a bathing suit or board shorts. No matter the occasion be presentable, groomed, get a haircut, put your phone on vibrate or turn it off, spray on some cologne and be clean. Remember – First Impressions.

When I was 18 I once procrastinated the haircut and ended up cutting it myself 2 hours before the date. I think a part of me thought I didn’t need one and in the last few hours before the date my hair just started growing 3 times faster. Let’s just say there was no 2nd date to procrastinate for. I’ve heard it’s best to get a haircut a week ahead so you don’t have tan lines and know how to style your hair.

Manners

Be polite to her and everyone that crosses your path during the date. After telling her she looks beautiful you probably don’t want to be guilty of over flattery, so try complimenting something about her. Compliment her outfit, hair or personality.

Chivalry is not dead – It may seem like it is so you’ll need to revive it.

Open the door – all doors – car, restaurant, carriage, roller coaster, submarine…
Pay for everything – Remember,you planned the date. Don’t even bother asking her about splitting it.

When I was 17 and on my 2nd date ever we ran into a guy that she knew. Problem was that I didn’t know she knew him, and this dude and I didn’t like each other. Our interaction, which wasn’t polite, then made it awkward…

Be on Time

If you’re going to be late it better be because Godzilla is roaming the town. Don’t let it be due to you forgetting to fill up on gas or time for traffic. Every second you’re late she’s waiting on you. Do the right thing and be on time. It’s part of showing respect – to her.

Beliefs, Passions, Faith

These are normally a part of your core. If during the date you start to feel uncomfortable and you’re wondering if it’s a Red Flag, then it probably is. For example, I’m a Christian so it just won’t work out if she’s an atheist or Buddhist.

Follow Up

Forget about those stupid rules like waiting 24 hours or 2 to 3 days before letting her know how much fun you had. Letting her know the next day doesn’t mean you have to plan the next date right then and there. You’re just letting her know you enjoyed her company. If she did too she’ll get back to you and the second date can be planned from there.

These are just a few first date tips that should help you in preparation for your date. Relax, take a chill pill, be fearless, don’t load up on caffeine, seek advice and get to know her.

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Find Relevant People

If you’re looking to date a specific type of person, it can be hard to find many people like that in your current circles. Dating websites do a great job of bringing together people with a particular interest, religion, ethnicity, or other characteristic. That way you don’t have to waste your time weeding through people who you wouldn’t actually want to date. Instead, you get to just deal with the people who meet your basic criteria.

Connect With Singles Interested in Dating

When interacting with someone in person, it can be tough to gauge whether that person is actually single and looking to date. People who aren’t interested in dating generally don’t sign up on dating websites, which greatly narrows the scope and helps you use your time wisely because you’re not wasting it pursuing people who aren’t actually interested in dating.

Find Lots of Singles You Wouldn’t Ordinarily Meet

When you’re looking to date, it can often be difficult to find new people once you have decided you don’t want to date anyone you currently know. Beyond work, your neighborhood, social activities, and your circle of friends, it’s sometimes hard to meet new people. Online dating websites connect you with people you would never stumble across over the course of your everyday life. You can even find people outside your immediate geographical area, which is especially helpful if you live in a small town.

Search by Important Characteristics

Within an online dating site, there are powerful search features that allow you to narrow down potential dates by specific characteristics they entered in their profiles. You can search by age, education, physical characteristics, and many other features. This helps you instantly narrow down your pool of potentials rather than wasting your time trying to dig information out of people you meet in person.

Assess Compatibility Before Wasting Time on a Date

Especially if you have a busy schedule, you only have so many evenings available to spend time going out on dates. Therefore, it’s important to use your time wisely and learn whether you’re actually compatible with someone before you use one of your evenings to go out on a date. With online dating, you can interact online and learn whether you’re compatible before setting aside a full evening for a date.

Screen Potential Dates

When someone asks you out in person, it can be hard to know if you’re interested in going on a date. You may even have a hard time saying no because of social pressure. But when you’re dating online, it’s very easy to screen your potential dates and turn down people you aren’t actually interested in. You have tons of information at your fingertips to discover whether to begin communicating with someone, and if at any point you decide you’re not interested, it’s easy to end communication. You don’t have to go on a date with someone until you’re sure you’re interested in pursuing the relationship.

Search & Communicate on Your Schedule

Online dating websites are available around the clock. If you’re a night owl, you can search for profiles and communicate with people on the site in the wee hours of the morning. Or if you prefer, you can use your lunch break to check out new singles. You aren’t constrained to meeting new people on the evenings and weekends, and you can get back to people as quickly or slowly as you want. Online dating puts the process on your schedule, whatever that may be.

End Relationships Easily

One of the most painful parts of dating is ending a relationship. But online dating makes that process go much more smoothly. For one, if you decide to end a relationship before you even meet, you will usually go through much less heartache because you don’t feel as close to someone you’ve never met. In addition, even if you end the relationship after meeting in person, your ex is probably not someone you’ll run into because he or she wasn’t already in your social circles.

As you can see, online dating can significantly improve your romantic life. Give it a try because there’s really nothing to lose!

As a writer that contributes to Cupid’s Arrow which offers love advice for all those in search of their potential partner. I have written many articles on relationships and online dating that focus on general topics as well as topics tailored for sites like LesbianCupid.com and JapaneseCupid.com.

1. Choose the Right Site, Even if You Have to Pay For It

Never choose a dating site because that’s the one everyone else uses. The most popular sites have the most competition, not a good idea if you want to meet someone quickly. There are dozens of dating sites online. There are religious based sites, fetish based sites, sites based on sexual preference, online dating for seniors, there are race-based sites and many more.

Even if you have to pay a monthly fee, consider that fee an investment into your future. If you are lonely now, wouldn’t you pay $20 or less a month if you were told you could meet the woman of your dreams? Of course you would. You probably spend that on leisurely activities right now that don’t bring you near as much pleasure as a dream matchup would bring you.

There are free sites, low paid sites and expensive ones. Don’t just discount a site because it charges and never discount a free site because you think it’s too cheap and saturated. Choose a site based on your preference, your budget and the number of available matches there are in the dating pool. And don’t be afraid to try several at once. The more sites you put profiles on, the more likely you are to find a match.

2. Search Like You’re a Woman To Beat Your Competition

The hardest part about online dating for men is the filling out of the profile. Most men have absolutely no idea how to present themselves in order to maximize their dating chances. To make matters worse, most online dating help for men fails to touch the process of filling out the profile. Most articles and videos online tell men to be honest and let the woman know what you want. If you want to create a profile that gets results, you must study the competition. Who are you up against? This is going to require you to search the online dating site you’re on as if you were a woman.

It is going to feel strange looking through a bunch of guys’ online dating photos, but this is a necessary step if you want the greatest edge.

If you can take what’s working and make it better, you will succeed at online dating faster than any of the other guys in your dating pool. This is one of those free online dating tips that you rarely read online and yet it’s so effective at putting you on top of whatever dating site you choose.

Pay attention to the photos men are using, the language they’re using, their headlines and anything else that stands out. Take plenty of notes and then write your profile. When you have a page full of profile tidbits, headline ideas and other crucial elements, you won’t find yourself staring at a blinking cursor when you’re asked to fill out your About Me, Ideal Date and any other sections you are required to fill out.

In other words, cheat. Online dating for men doesn’t have to be so difficult if you know the easy ways to do things.

3. Be Honest With Your Date and Yourself

One of the biggest complaints most women have about online dating is the fact that men tend to lie. One recent dater recounted a story where she met a man in real life and she said that his age, height and weight were all different than he implied them to be via their online communications.

She said that he was two inches shorter, twenty years older and at least twenty pounds heavier. His response to being caught in a blatant lie, or three of them for that matter? He shrugged, smiled and said, “Everyone lies on the Internet.”

That is not the way to begin any type of relationship. Out of all the online dating tips for guys you will hear in your lifetime, heed this one first and foremost. Be honest about who you are and what your motivations are. Don’t lie about your age, weight, height, job, income or anything else. You will be found out eventually, especially if the date ever progresses to an offline setting.

Creating an online dating profile can cause you to really take a look at yourself. Don’t lie to make yourself feel better or to entice more dates to contact you. It’s not worth it and it will only deter possible matches in the future.

4. Dig Deep to Find Ice-Breakers

This is another bit of online dating advice guys never hear. When a woman fills out an online dating profile, that is all the information she wants you to know about her. The problem for her is, the Internet is vast and probably holds much more information than what she’s offering. In fact, there is probably information online that she’d rather you not know. Use this free online dating tip with caution. You can find out a lot more about your date by Internet-stalking her, so to speak, but you might not be able to erase any bad press you find from your mind. That can be a problem if you end up really liking the person.

If you don’t mind digging up a little dirt on your potential date-to-be, start Googling the person’s name, headline or anything else. People tend to use the same usernames across multiple platforms, headlines and other elements. Some people even put their Facebook profile links on their page. Use any and all information you find to your advantage.

Your goal isn’t to open a file on them or stalk them (looking someone up online is only called cyber stalking), rather it is to gather info that can be used to break the ice with that person.

You are looking for common ground, something that you both can talk and have a conversation about. This should really only be used if you can’t find anything in the person’s profile. These days you might uncover DUI arrest records, mugshots, divorce records and a lot more on Google and the other engines. Be careful what you search for.

5. Be Intriguing, Even if Your Life is Boring

Even if you live in a nondescript house and you work as an accountant, you can still make your life sound exciting. Get creative with it and pretend you’re writing a mystery novel. You don’t have to get too crazy with it, but try to be mysterious, intriguing and try to keep her guessing as to what you do or what you’re into. The more fun you have with it, the more you’ll stand out from other guys on the dating site you’re on and the more success you’ll have overall.

The dating advice guys need the most is the ability to leave the woman guessing. Leave some information for the first date. Nobody says you have to spill the beans in your profile. Leave her guessing, imply more than tell and you’ll get better results.

6. Get on the Phone or Cam Quickly

In the cult film Napoleon Dynamite, the main character’s brother, Kip, meets a girl online and is telling his brother about it across a table at a restaurant. Kip says that they’ve been chatting for two hours every night and, with a nod, says, “I guess it’s getting pretty serious.”

To make a true match with someone, you have to form an emotional connection. It is possible to form an emotional connection via chat. Kip is one example. However, you will build an emotional connection faster and with more impact if you can get the woman on the phone or Skype or other cam-based chat.

Once you form an emotional connect, the rest is fun and games. The endorphins will take over and you’ll be on that love rollercoaster that most people spend most of their lives reminiscing about and chasing. Get the digits or the Skype address and take your chat to the phone or cam for a much faster connection.

Once you get on the phone or cam, the next step is to recommend an offline date. Follow these six free online dating tips for guys and you will enjoy better dates more often, guaranteed.

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Have you met someone nice and you want to date her? Planning a date for her could be really stressful if you do not know what to do. With good planning, you can create a date that she will reminisce even years after. To save you of the stress and anxiety, here are some tips in planning a perfect date for the girl of your dreams.

Do not panic and relax. Although a date can make or break your future relationship with the girl of your dreams, relax because getting anxious cannot help you in planning a date for her. You can think and decide clearly if you are calm and not in panic. It is normal to get nervous thinking about the date you are going to have with her but do no let your nervousness rule you. Be positive and always think that everything will turn out well.

If this is your first date with her, it is more appropriate to have a lunch date. First dates should not be stressful and you both should feel comfortable with each other. Dinner date on a fancy restaurant for a first date could be really serious and too much formality can be really uncomfortable for both of you. Choose a less formal venue and have the date at lunch time so your date will just be light and fun. With less formality, you and your date will get to know each other more.

It is important to be punctual. In planning a date for her, the venue and the activities you both want to do are important but if you appear late on your date, you will ruin a supposedly perfect date. So mark the date and time of your scheduled date with her and make sure to show up before the scheduled time.

In planning a date for her, take note that this is about her. It can be overwhelming to think about the venue, the food you are going to order, your attire and other things about your date that you may forget that this date is about her, Always have her in mind when planning a date for her. Know what she likes to do and what will make her feel special. It will be great if you have a common hobby or interest that you can do on your date to make the date interactive.

Clean your car and your place. If you offer to pick her up, clean you car if you want to leave a good first impression. Accept it or not, a man can be judged by how he takes care of his things. A well-kept and clean car can leave a good first impression on her. You do not know if she will end up hanging out in your place so tidy up your place just in case she wants to see your place.

Always have a back up plan. You will never know the circumstances, so it is best to have a back up plan just in case something went wrong with your original plan. This will also show how flexible you are, a trait most women admire.

Be prepared to pay for the whole date. Some women are comfortable sharing with the expenses but you should be prepared to pay for the whole date. In planning a date for her, keep your budget in mind. Do not make plans on something that is beyond your financial capability. Remember that a perfect date do not have to be expensive. But if you can afford it, there is nothing wrong to be extravagant but you have to be careful not to send the wrong message.

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In everything that we want to achieve, there are rules to be followed to guarantee our success. We cannot leave our success to chances, we have to create strategies and follow proven rules to achieve our goals. It is the same with dating; there are rules to be followed to create a memorable date to achieve success in dating. Dating is a crucial stage in finding the person who could be your lifetime partner so it is best to do the right things when dating someone.

To make your date a success, you have to create a memorable date that could be remembered with a smile on your face. Here are the basic rules to be followed to succeed in dating:

Be punctual. Time is the most precious possession we have and must be spend wisely. It can be a big turn off wasting someone else’s time by keeping him or her waiting for you. Respect someone else’s time because in this busy world, you have to be grateful for someone who choose to spend time with you. To create a memorable date, you have to observe punctuality. Be on time or appear minutes before the agreed time. First impression do lasts, and if you will leave a bad first impression by keeping your date waiting, it could affect your success with the person you wish to have a good romantic relationship with. Prepare early for your date. Block the scheduled day for your date and make sure it is the only important event for you on that day.

Effectively handle your nervousness. It is normal to feel butterflies in your stomach but you have to control your nervousness and do not allow it to control you if you want to create a memorable date. Too much nervousness can distract you from performing well on your date and you will appear like someone who has low self-esteem and without self-confidence which can be a real turn off. Learn to effectively handle your nervousness. Do not feed yourself with negative thoughts; instead of feeling nervous, be positive that everything will turn out well. It can be really helpful to prepare yourself mentally and physically if the date is giving you anxiety, especially if this is the first date. Sleep early, eat healthy and think about beautiful things. If you need to practice in front of the mirror on how you will converse with your date to ease your nervousness then do so. Always think that dating is not something to be scared of, dating is an enjoyable thing to do to get to know the person you like.

Be truthful. Do not complicate things by telling lies just to impress your date. Things like these could backfire and could really get ugly in the end. There are many ways to create a memorable date and impress your date but dishonesty is not one of them. Honesty is the best policy and deceiving your date is not a good thing. Being honest with the person you date means you will also receive honesty from your date. Being true to your feelings and your words makes dating more meaningful. It is nice to be accepted for who you really are.

These rules will surely help you to create a memorable date and achieve success in dating. Discover hundreds of creative dating ideas to make a lasting impression on your date, visit Dating Guide

Gerry Restrivera writes informative articles on various subjects including Rules to Follow If You Want to Create a Memorable Date. You are allowed to publish this article in its entirety provided that author’s name, bio and website links must remain intact and included with every reproduction.